Gearheads of War

you got people here that have your back. Again, this'll only make you stronger.

it seem's shitty right now but in your life this is just a small thing. I know I've been there and I'm sure most of the other guys have too. Keep your head up and concentrate on making your yourself happy. Play games more, pick up a instrument, draw or paint something. Take up a new hobby or something you have always wanted to do. I don't know how old you are but you can work more? It will get easier with time but the first is always the hardest. You will find another amazing lady that will dig you as much as you dig her. I promise just hang in there.

lets see, you really like this girl, a lot of things in common, but she would rather go out with a senior, does she know this "Senior" very well? and you deserve better, if she used you just to fill in a spot then i would say she aint the one for you, or maybe she is and doesnt even know it, im sure you will find the one, dont worry, and if she doesnt go out with the senior then break up with her for sure so she doesnt have any one to go too and see how low she would go.

If she could be that cold to you, there are definitely much better women out there for you. Go out there and meet as many ladies as you can! Eventually you will find a good match! :)

Best to you man!

I had something happen to me in the same vein as you did (head over heels for someone which ended in absolute fucking misery).

There was this Senior girl who took an interest in me (which got me interested) that I met in gym class the first semester this year (10th grade).  She was beautiful, nice, funny, and smart.  Everything I could ask for.  The flirting kept going on and our interests in eachother got to the point where it was clear that this was the time to act and ask her out.

Well, what did I do?  Absolutely nothing.  Every time I got up the courage, the plan to make my move, I just totally wimped out.  There was just this intimidating factor blocking me; she's older than me.  So, the semester ended and I thought, "well, that's over I guess".  But I was wrong.  Though I thought everything was over, she pursued further - smiling, waving, and saying hi in the hallways whenever (and I mean everytime) we crossed paths.  Even during class a couple times this happened.  For instance, when her group came to the various PAWS (a study hall of sorts we have at a set time every day; basically just another period that happens to be a study hall that everyone has) classes to talk about their Senior Project she did it (which I got somewhat embarrassed at because here's this hot, popular, Senior chick smiling at me and whatnot - the embarrassing part being most of the class turned and looked).

Anywho, fast forward about two months of this going on continuously and you hit March.  About mid-month was our Spring Break, and that marked the turning point.  There was no more smiling, no more waving, no more saying hello to.  I attempted to after that, but she more or less ignored me.  It was the biggest slap in the face.  There was the occassional look or deep exasperrated sigh (obvious, much?) as we walked by eachother by her, but that was it.

Fast forward to the end of the year and I'm an absolute wreck.  She's leaving, and not only did I feel I missed the biggest opportunity for happiness during my Sophmore year of school, but she fucking hated me now.  My failure to act and failure to ask her out really hurt her.

I'm over the fact that she's gone and I never got a chance to say goodbye, but what I'm not over is the fact that I hurt her feelings like that.  I never intended to hurt someone I cared about so much, but I did.

So basically my advice to you is to just either let her do her own thing and "figure out who she wants", or just pursue her more; try to get her interested in you again.

Just don't make the same mistake I did and let her go.  Don't be like me.

And for reference: Kara

that we probably have quite a few heartbreaks among us...I know I have one.

As it's been said, this girl may seem like the world, but coming from a guy who's been a very similar spot (Last GF told me she was going to watch 'Passion of the Christ' and was actually going to a party where she ended up cheating on me in the worst possible way...) this girl is just a moment in your life.

Now I'm with a Christian girl who will respect me and live a life that's free from lies and parties and cheating.

Time is the best medicine as well as relying on the big guy up there who will help...Anyway, I'll be praying for you man! (just emailed ya)

is to play Video Games.
Channel your mind somewhere else.

And like everyone else said, it'll only get better.  I've had an experience that was a lot like this actually, so I kinda know how you feel, which is really shitty.

Best of luck man

I don't mean to get all philosophical on you, but this is one of life's unfortunate lessons.  Give her some space for both of your sakes.  You'll approach things a little differently with the next relationship that you're in.  Perhaps you'll be more guarded because you've had your heartbroken before.  Who knows?  I know that it sounds very cliche, but "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger."  I have trust in you that you'll bounce back.  You'll go through the gamut of emotions: sorrow, resentment, anger, love, hate, and eventually- understanding and forgiveness.  All of these emotions will lead toward the path of personal healing.  Just remember one thing- Always be true to yourself.  Let no one dictate who you are and what you are.

slapped her with a ham sandwich and then ate it in honor of me!

But seriously Abe, you can find someone better than her if she can do that to you and not feel bad about it. I say you find that senior kid and beat his ass. Then we'll celebrate with milk and cookies.

is that it will get better. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of seven months. It was tough. But ya move on. The only thing I can tell you is that there is that special lady out there (in reality, there's like ten!) and that you will find her. The only thing you can do is be true to yourself and have fun. Do that, and you'll meet the girl of your dreams. Your totally not a fag for posting this. Besides, if you were, you'd be dating men! And even then, that's not a problem! LoL.

But it'll get better bud. The shit she said... just not the kind of girl for you. I think it was meant to happen so you can find that great girl. You will. To quote Steven King, "Stand and be true." Do ya kennit, gunslinger?

been pretty much summed up by everyone previously, but (not to downgrade you) you're young and will experience pain and heartache a few times.  I know I have and the thinking about it is the worst possible thing.  Just get out there do your thing hang with the boys game with the boys.  It will be hard at first but lil by lil you'll notice a few more laughs coming out and the random memories will not fade away but just not be in your face all the time.  Love is tough and its one thing that you can never be prepared for.  But hang in there one day some girl will sweep you off your feet like you've never felt and this girl will be something you learn from.  Dont be so hard on yourself with her reasoning you can see that she is gonna have a lot more pain than you will, not that that makes anything better.  Im just saying that if someone does that to you its not worth your time to worry about it, just have fun while your young cuz the years fly by! Keep your head up and if you ever wanna game and pistol whip the fuck out of me in frustration I'll be avail.  

The best remedy is to get out there and talk to the plethora of fine women on this beautiful planet. You'll find that there are far more women who are interesting and physically attractive than you can pay attention to.

Don't let this get you down, like everyone said you'll heal with time.

If you're of age hit a strip club and make it rain in that motha****k*r.

P.S. Sorry if that offends anyone.

Get out there with your friends and try to pick yourself up. Try to meat some girl and get going. I know this is like a tone of bricks but this is only one step, there are many more and some are going to be harder.

invented Gears of War.

are hilarious. Especially johnart's. But as for abe. Don't worry about leaving my game man. Grymm said you had personal matters to take care of and that was plenty of reason for me to justify you leaving. Just give it time abe. Everything will either fall into place or it won't. If it doesn't then maybe it's for the best. I am the master of waiting on things to fall into place. I lost my best friend because of a girl. But it wasn't the girl's fault. It was his. He ended up being a giant douchebag. It's a long story and I won't bore anyone with it. Just give her the time she needs to figure things out. Hopefully she will realize that the senior guy is just a huge douche and you will be better for her. If not then just move on and let it go.

way to get over a girl is to find another girl.  It always works for me.  And remember your young and there are billions of oter girls in this world.  losing this one is not the end of the road.  

You guys really helped. I'm kind of over it now, after going to school today, many of my friends cheered me up, even though most of them didn't know what happened.

I'm still bummed as to what happened, and hopefully, she'll make up her mind soon, so I don't have to worry anymore. If she does try and pursue this asshole senior (which is stupid, 'cause he's leaving for college real soon), then that's her own fault for leaving problably the best guy she's ever met (not to toot my own horn or anything, I've been told by all my girl friends (friends that are girls) that I'm one of the nicest and well-mannered guys they've ever met) and who treats her with respect, unlike most guys at my school, or her school for that matter. I was really attracted to her more for who she was as a person, which is extremely rare for me, 'cause I'm usually all about looks.

But thanks again guys. You guys REALLY helped.

And as 3Suns already mentioned the other night, why on Earth is every song about love? haha